#day21 Challenge rape culture ...
Submitted by a staff member. Sometimes when someone (who is not trauma informed) hears what happened to you, they decide to ask tons of questions. Many of those questions may cause guilt and feelings of doubt, even shame... Responses in my head to questions asked: So WHAT if I was at a party?! So WHAT if I wore red lipstick?!Why do I have to defend myself?! This is not my fault. Etc etc etc. If someone shares their experience with you, challenge Rape Culture by first off, BELIEVING THEM. You have no idea how much of an impact that can have. Rape culture continues to victim blame, enough is enough.
Believe Me. Believe her/him/them/us!
Sunday evenings are quite often a stressful evening especially with those prepping to return to work tomorrow. While we were contemplating this new week, double checking our schedules or perhaps travelling back home one of our fellow community members is currently at the ER after experiencing a sexual assault 💜
Please comment with a 💜 to show your support, strength and prayers to this individual and to those who also may be silently suffering. Liking, commenting and sharing helps spread that word that sadly yes this is happening right here in our community. #ibelieveyou
If you have been assaulted, experienced or experiencing a crisis and need someone to talk too please call our 24 hour crisis line 1-866-296-0477
Challenge Rape Culture #day21 🦋 When I came forward to report what happened, instead of support, well-meaning people close to me asked me questions. If I had done something to cause the assault. These questions about my choices the night of my assault — as opposed to the choices made by my rapist — were in some ways as painful as the violent act itself. I had stumbled upon rape culture: a culture in which sexual violence is the norm and victims are blamed for their own assaults. #saam@nsvrc#30daysofsaam@rainn#believesurvivors#notokay#rapecultureisreal
When people see signs like these in public setting, they usually laugh and repeat them over to others and justify it as a joke. Truth is RAPE is NOT a joke! Surprise sex is RAPE! One must always ask for consent. If someone is asleep or unconscious, they are unable to give consent. Even in prison, there are laws against rape. •
As a society, we need to stop laughing at rape jokes and #challengerapeculture by educating others on consent and believing survivors. @nsvrc#30daysofsaam#day21
It's hard to wait.
Trial has been postponed for the second time, to May 20th.
Meanwhile, no home. Thankful to those allowing me to stay at their place while waiting for a room at the clinic since I have a lot of work to do #cptsd#mentalhealthcare is no joke.
| the end of the world 🤯|
Very loosely based off today’s #escapril prompt. Very heavily based on recent events (looking at you, @nus_singapore , I have a voice and I’ll bloody use it, thanks). Also based off only ONE instance of sexual harassment I faced. I was 13 years old. #escapril2019
On Friday, Governor Inslee signed a new law, Senate Bill 5649, that expands the statute of limitations for sexual assault prosecutions. The legislation eliminates the statute of limitations for sex crimes involving minors and doubles the statute of limitations for many sexual assaults of adults from 10 years to 20 years.
Read full story here: https://www.king5.com/article/news/politics/new-law-changes-statute-of-limitations-for-sex-crimes-in-washington/281-ee4ee385-37eb-4dde-aaa3-c08d3247cbe5
Available now on Amazon and for #free with Kindle Unlimited. Rebecca’s latest release: Turquoise Boot Straps: A Survivor’s Thoughts. #checkitout#newrelease According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center * 1 in 5 women and 1 in 71 men will be raped at some point in their lives.
* In the United Stares 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men experienced some form of contact sexual violence in their lifetime.
* 51.1% of female victims of rape reported being raped by an intimate partner and 40.8% by an acquaintance.
* 52.4% of male victims report being raped by an acquaintance and 15.1% by a stranger.
* 49.5% of multiracial women and over 45% of American Indian/Alaska Native women were subjected to some form of contact sexual violence in their lifetime.
* 91% of victims of rape and sexual assault are female, and 9% are male * In 8 out of 10 cases of rape, the victim knew the perpetrator.
* 8% of rapes occur while the victim is at work.
The problem of sexual violence runs rampant, and yet rape is the most under-reported crime; 63% of sexual assaults are not reported to police. Of the remaining 37% that are reported less than 10% are instances of false reporting. The facts are clear, and still the culture that would rather victims of sexually based crimes remain silent prevails.
Join Rebecca MacCeile as she throws off the shackles of silence and raises her voice. Turquoise Boot Straps: A Survivor’s Thoughts provides a glimpse into her journey of self discovery while tackling many controversial topics at the height of the #metoo era. #saam#nsvrc#believesurvivors#newbookalert#nowavailable
i am free-writing my (sex) stories for the first time in my life. it feels so, so cathartic. to finally have a space to unpack and feel all that lies in my womb...
there is something about having a tiny daughter that makes this feel more urgent than ever. to grieve and recover my broken feminine - to understand how she moves in me. my sensuality, my sexuality, my great divine mystery. so that one day when the time comes (and the time starts now) - i can give my baby more guidance than what was given me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
i’m finally examining all the power i held, that i did not know how to wield. no instructions came with coming into age and the blossoming into a sexual being. and i am finally seeing my sweet young teenage self with a gentleness that i had never felt towards me. so much responsibility, i had to take on. so many mistakes i made. how much i blamed and berated myself. how much to uncover beneath all the shame...
but i am diving in to mine for the gold, for the jewels that are mine to keep. the wisdom i have earned from having lived and learned, through a life i so vividly meet... and i have fallen for many a trap in the forest and now i am acutely aware. and i will speak of these freely one day, unhinging their claws from me.
i am digging up the skeletons and dusting off the dirt and hanging them up for all to see. and my children will learn from the ways i have fallen, as i share my stories fearlessly. we will speak fluidly about sex and shame and all the things that are so very human... i am stripping off my shackles and dismantling the patriarchy that has kept me silent for so long. the tides are turning, my dear beloveds. and the feminine is rising. ✨
Colorado is a container for some of the biggest moments of my life. Let's recap:
SEPTEMBER 2010: Before @iflyus had indoor skydiving centers everywhere, we had to drive across multiple states to get to one. Along with Barry and three of his other students, we piled into my Civic and made our way from Chicago to Denver. The morning after we arrived in Colorado for this trip, Barry couldn't move his neck. Turns out he was millimeters away from paralysis - the vertebrae in his neck were "obliterated" - one more weird parachute opening and he could have been paralyzed. In his hospital room before having surgery to repair his neck, I realized I didn't want to live life without this man.
SEPTEMBER 2011: Barry and I did another trip to Colorado to train, and this time, we added a trip to GABF as well. When we got home from this trip, we decided we would move to California to train and work at Skydive Elsinore.
OCTOBER 2012: After moving from Chicago to SoCal, Barry proposed in Vegas earlier in the year. Barry and I had already scheduled another tunnel and beer trip in Colorado. We figured all of our friends were already planning on coming to the tunnel trip, so we added a wedding to the plans and got married at @iflydenver on 10.11.12. The GABF was our reception. 🍻
OCTOBER 2018: @stickfiguremusic announces a headlining show at Red Rocks. After being wildly inspired by what Scott has created with Stick Figure and having my perspective on life shift after meeting @pepperlive earlier in the summer during back-to-back shows in Vegas and SD, I knew @hikingmyfeelings would include some hikes with our Pepper Ohana and Stick Figure Family. We scheduled this hike before we got the van, before I knew that the first #hikingmyfeelingstour would be a success. I felt drawn to this show, to this music, to these people. We didn't know how we'd get to Colorado, just trusted it would work out.
APRIL 2019: This is the view from the top of the Red Rocks hike we did on Friday. Goals achieved. Thoughts becoming things. More dreams shifting into reality.
It's been a magical long weekend in Denver, I wonder what is possible tonight in Fort Collins.