It has been a tough year with this guy. Like, REALLY tough. So tough, that I found myself overwhelmed with his hard traits and ignoring all of his good ones. I recently had to take some personal inventory and reevaluate what it takes to be a mom to a kid that isn’t just outside the box, but won’t even go near the box.
I have been giving this kid consequences for pretty much 9 months straight. Honestly, I’ve forgotten what his privileges are when he’s not on punishment. That has me thinking lately...this is no way to live. I know that kids need to be accountable, but obviously the traditional way doesn’t work for him.
So what’s a mom to do after 9 months of punishment that have led us to him getting suspended last week? Well after some reflection of why I have taken the path I have for the last 9 months, I decided to give him his things back, and give him more freedom.
Hear me out...
We give consequences to teach, right? Well he’s not learning. So that means that I’m actually giving consequences to make me feel like a good mom. He is no better off a person for spending the last 9 months in exile, so how is this for him?
Maybe he needs more freedom to be himself. Maybe I’m the one who needed a lesson. So we shifted things around a bit. Of course, we will have to deal with certain negative behaviors, but I’m trying to deal with them in the moment and give him as many opportunities for a fresh start as I can. Because at the end of the day, how can you try to do better if you wake up defeated?
I would have never in a million years seen myself taking this path as a parent. But for this guy, I’ll be whoever he needs me to be.
One thing I am more than happy to do though, is get back to appreciating all of the things that make this guy so awesome. Because some of these behaviors that I was trying to discipline out of my kid, are the same ones that are going to make him a very successful adult.
This Is T w o😍🎉✨
We Celebrated Him Yesterday At The Happiest Place On Earth And Today We Put Together Some Of His Fave Things To Do And He Was The Happiest Singing Himself Happy Birthday After He Made Us Sing To Him Like 20x😆 And Of Course Stuffing His Face With Cake Was A Must And Playing His Little Heart Out With All His Toys❤️ You Are So So Loved Sweet Boy! Ziah Also Wanted To Say Thank You For All The Sweet Birthday Comments, Messages, Texts & Calls🥰
Una macchia di gelato, un pennarello, una fragola. Ogni giorno una macchia nuova e quante lavatrici devono affrontare i vestiti dei nostri bimbi? Ecco perché Benetton ha pensato a un prezzo contenuto 9.95€ per fare "la scorta" di magliette che pur costando meno non perdono di qualità, il colore rimane splendente e non si "smontano" nemmeno dopo 50 giri in lavatrice 😉🙌